Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.
~ Eckhart Tolle
Yesterday I listened to a DVD by Eckhart Tolle called The Flowering of Human Consciousness: Everyone’s Life Purpose. Something he said really hit me; he said stress is resistance to what is happening in the present moment. Instead of resisting the current circumstances he recommends just to allow it to be as it is and be the observer, we are the conscious observers of what is happening, it does not define us. So many people get their identity from their experiences. We are not our experiences.
What we resist persists. If we want to experience serenity we need to accept without attachment, surrender to what is in a sense. I think it is like when you are learning to swim when you fight and flail you sink, soon as you surrender to the water and stop resisting, you float.
This really has me thinking. The crux of the DVD was on how we form identity and discover who we are. Some people get their identity from what they do, what they have, what they know, what they think and so many other external things. These things are not who we are. The fact is all these things are just part of what our ego uses to tell us who we are, when in reality we are spacious spiritual beings of divine love just temporarily taking up residence in these physical forms having these experiences and things, but they are not who we are.
“What a liberation to realize that the “voice in my head” is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
As I was saying we are not our experiences. Too many people get their identity from their victim story. It is one thing to tell your story as way of showing how God has transformed you and used your circumstances to create in you the person you were meant to be in the world. It is another thing to allow your negative experiences to define who you are. I am talking about this incessant need to slip in how you were a victim into whatever circumstance you are currently in as if it has become your identity.
“You are a creator; you create with your every thought. You often create by default, for you are getting what you are giving your attention to wanted or unwanted but you know by how it feels if what you are getting (creating) is what you are wanting or if it is not what you are wanting. (Where is your attention focused?)” ~ Abraham Hicks
Some people attract chaos and misery to themselves because their identity has become that of the victim. You can tell when someone is over the past, when they can talk about it without it getting them emotional, it is the past not currently happening. In contrast someone with the victim identity is always getting overwhelmed and focusing on their problems in life as who they are and saying, “these things always happen to me.” If you find yourself identifying yourself with being a victim you can change and take your power back.
Anyone who has heard about the law of attraction knows that what we focus our attention on is what we attract. If you think about our problems, financial scarcity and how we were victimized then that is what we will attract. If we are spending energy resisting bad things that happen then that energy will continue to attract those things. Stress is just resisting what is now. What if instead you focused on what you don’t want you focused on what you wanted to attract?
“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey
Thinking about how we create our experience by what we pay attention to gave me an idea. So I made a challenge for myself that I am only going to focus my attention on my blessings and to not judge, complain or be critical for one week. Every time I am tempted to complain or have a judgmental critical thought I am going to stop breathe and think before I speak. I know it won’t be easy but I want to focus on my blessings instead of complaining. I want to see the pure divine love in others instead of their external actions, which is not who they are. Basically I choose to love.
My challenge: Join me in this challenge and share what you are learning about yourself, I would love your comments.
Maria Elena Escobar