“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” ~ Mother Teresa

I have been focusing on becoming love; it is my theme for the month and the journey of a lifetime.  Nowhere is divine love more present within us than when we practice compassion and true forgiveness toward those who have hurt us.  It is then when we truly learn what unconditional love is.

It is easy to love those who love us.  It is easy to love those who are acting lovable.  But what about loving someone when they are pushing your buttons, how easy does that come?  What about loving someone when they are cruel to you?  What about loving someone who has deeply hurt you in your past?  Is it still so easy?

I had a long talk with a friend I adore.  We were talking about past hurts and letting go of past hurt.  When we let go of the pain and recognize that it is not personal how others treat us, it is just them dealing with their own unresolved pain, we can be free.  If we choose to live from love we can have compassion and understand that the other person was doing the best they could with what they had in the moment, we can release it and move on.  I am not saying condone it, it is not OK, but you can let it go.

When we can choose to let go, we take back the power that only love can give, the true freedom.  As long as we relive the hurt, tell the story to ourselves and others over and over and hold onto the pain, we give them permanent residence in our head and the power to hurt us over and over again.  Have compassion on yourself and decide you have suffered enough, love yourself enough to stop the dance and get off the merry-go-round of pain and let it go.

We constantly have to choose to live from love or from fear.  When we live with compassion and forgiveness we live from love.  When we live from resentment and bitterness we live from fear.  Perfect love drives out fear, they cannot exist simultaneously.  So ask yourself will you be a prisoner of fear or live in the freedom and power of love?

My Challenge: When someone is saying or doing something and you are feeling hurt stop and choose to have compassion on them. Recognize it is not personal, if possible try to recognize their maybe so much more going on underneath within them that you have no idea about, don’t take it personally, it is there junk they are dealing with.  Then let it go, love yourself enough to take care of yourself and let it go.


Maria Elena Escobar