“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ~ Mother Teresa

I am continuing on the theme of LOVE for April.  Today I want to talk about judging one another.  It is so automatic for some of us we don’t even know we are doing it.

When we judge someone it says more about ourselves than the other person.  We all look at life through a different lens.  Whatever baggage you bring to the situation will affect how you perceive it.  So ask yourself, “am I judging others?’

When you make an assumption before you here the facts or ask questions, you are judging them.  When you automatically assume the person is falling into a past habit and respond to them accordingly without confirmation, you are judging.  When you get angry at a behavior without getting facts, you are judging.  Things are not always how they appear.  You cannot love someone and judge them.

This poem is a great example of how we can learn to choose to love before judging.  You can’t take back your words, so be thoughtful and careful when you accuse or get angry.  Get the facts and read the writing on the wall.

The Handwriting On The Wall

A weary mother returned from the store,
Lugging groceries through the kitchen door.
Awaiting her arrival was her 8 year old son,
Anxious to relate what his younger brother had done.

“While I was out playing and Dad was on a call,
T.J. took his crayons and wrote on the wall!
It’s on the new paper you just hung in the den.
I told him you’d be mad at having to do it again.”

She let out a moan and furrowed her brow,
“Where is your little brother right now?”
She emptied her arms and with a purposeful stride,
She marched to his closet where he had gone to hide.

She called his full name as she entered his room.
He trembled with fear–he knew that meant doom!
For the next ten minutes, she ranted and raved
About the expensive wallpaper and how she had saved.

Lamenting all the work it would take to repair,
She condemned his actions and total lack of care.
The more she scolded, the madder she got,
Then stomped from his room, totally distraught!

She headed for the den to confirm her fears.
When she saw the wall, her eyes flooded with tears.
The message she read pierced her soul with a dart.
It said, “I love Mommy”, surrounded by a heart.

Well, the wallpaper remained, just as she found it,
With an empty picture frame hung to surround it.
A reminder to her, and indeed to all,
Take time to read the handwriting on the wall.

Taken from, Moral Stories by academictips.org Author unknown

My Challenge: Think before you react next time someone upsets you or does something you disagree with.  Ask questions and get the facts before you respond.  Choose the most loving response available.

Maria Elena Escobar