I Promise to Best Me Today
The other day I read the book, The Four Agreements written by, Don Miguel Ruiz. They are four simple principles that you commit yourself to live by, freeing you from the tyranny of ego. He doesn’t actually use the word ego but essentially anything that causes us to make choices from fear and not love, resides in the ego. As Dr. Wayne Dyer always says, ego is an acronym for Edging God Out. We are created to be connected to God and to live a life of love. If you follow these agreements you will live from love and not fear.
One of the four agreements that resonated with me is be impeccable with your word. The agreements are a contract you make with yourself. I am committed to being in integrity, saying what I mean, honoring my commitments and choosing my words carefully. Words are powerful, they create our experience.
This particular agreement has historically been challenging for me, especially when it comes to keeping my word to myself. My past, including yesterday, is replete with examples of me making promises to myself or making commitments and flaking. But I am not that person, I can make different choices today. It may be a challenge to change but challenges are what make life interesting so I am going to do what I say I am going to do, even if it hurts.
Words have power so I am going to remember to think before I speak to make sure what I am saying is beneficial and coming from a place of love. I have this picture on my wall it has the acronym THINK, it says:
Before you Speak THINK:
T-is it True?
H– is it Helpful?
I– is it Inspiring?
N– is it Necessary?
K– is it Kind?
I don’t have to act the way I used to, even if I messed up yesterday, today is a new chance to try again! I don’t have to be a prisoner of the past, I can be a pioneer of the future and forge new ground.
So I am sharing this with you my fellow travelers. I am committed to making this my strength. Below is a summary of the four agreements, which one resonates with you? What are you willing to commit to do?
(Note: I found this on Facebook so whoever wrote it thank you.)
In case hard to read it says:
1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
a. Speak with integrity.
b. Say only what you mean.
c. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
d. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
a. Nothing others do is because of you.
b. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
c. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
a. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
b. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
c. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
a. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy opposed to when you are sick.
b. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Share what you are going to commit to; I would love to hear it.