“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponde
I was thinking today about forgiveness. I believe that it is important to forgive others to let go of the bitterness that contaminates your soul. It is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. That tight, heavy feeling in your chest or your stomach when you think about the offense is an example of how lack of forgiveness can make you physically sick. Prolonged unforgiveness can lead to serious illness.
To me, even more, significant is the toll it takes on your spirit. It is like a massive weight that we carry, and it blocks us from receiving the love that is out there, waiting. I feel like letting go of the pain and anger enables you to be free and to feel peace in your spirit. It opens you up to receive love and to love others.
Recently, I have been studying the mind-body connection. From a purely scientific physics point of view, we essentially created from photons. When we break down our bodies into the smallest particles, we are pure energy.
Energy vibrates at different frequencies and when we are in a state of unforgiveness we emit a negative vibration. Have you ever been around someone who is always angry or negative? It is like they suck all the energy out of the room. They can exhaust you. Conversely, when someone radiates love and joy you want to be around them. Choose to vibrate love.
I think the critical thing that people who have a hard time forgiving should know is that they do not have to condone the action or even let the other person know they forgive them. When you forgive someone, you are choosing it to let go of the pain. You are deciding not to allow the other person to have power over you anymore. As long as you hold onto the offense, it can anger, enrage and hurt you. They are in control.
“Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time.” ~ Sara Paddiso
It is easy to forgive someone who is sorry. You don’t always have that option. Sometimes the person is no longer around, sometimes they are someone you don’t know and can’t confront. Sometimes they are not sorry. When we choose to live a life of love we have to decide to forgive, for our own sake and the sake of the world around us that we influence.
Forgiveness unblocks the negative chains that bind your spirit and allows your heart to be free to love. Don’t let someone else’s choice make you choose a path where you continue to be a victim. Choose to be a survivor, choose to be a victor, and choose to live a life of love and joy again. Choose to forgive!