I am glad I ate that frog today

I am glad I ate that frog today

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Procrastination is attitude’s natural assassin. There’s nothing so fatiguing as an uncompleted task.

Today I did something that I have been putting off for a long time and it was so empowering and life changing.  I cannot tell you how grateful I am that I took that step.  I decided that I needed to make some changes and I took the first leap even though it was hard and scary and hurt it was worth it.

What have you been putting off?

What has been on your to do list over and over?

Isn’t it time to check it off?

Watch this 1 and half minute video it will change your mind about procrastination.

 

Video from simpletruths.com

I hope you eat that frog today and find another juicy one tomorrow.

Life rewards action!

Namaste,

Maria Elena

A Life of Vision and Purpose

A Life of Vision and Purpose

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, but of choice. Not something to wish for, but to attain.”

— William Jennings Bryan


I have been studying about vision.  When I think of vision I think of the quote, “One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” – Andre Gide.  Vision requires risk to bring to fruition.  It is pretty scary to be far from the shore, when you can’t see your safety net and have to step out of your comfort zone.  Without vision you just exist from day to day, not truly living a fully authentic inspired life.

So what is your vision for your life?  Where do you see yourself 5 years from now, 10 years, 20 years, etc.?  One exercise I found in the book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by, Stephen Cohen was to write your epitaph.  What do you want people to say about you? What do you want to be remembered for?  Think about the 3 most important people in your life, what would you like them to say?  This can give you an idea of what you value, what you want to accomplish and what your dreams and vision of the future are.

One thing I have learned the hard way is you have to take steps and decisive action to realize your dreams.  That does not mean you have to put in many hours a day.  Baby steps are fine, remember: inch by inch a sinch, yard by yard is hard.  Do something.  Henry Ford the inventor of the assembly line approach to making cars said, “Anything is possible if you break it down into small  enough steps.”

I started with a quote about destiny not being a matter of chance but choice.  I chose this quote because really it is a choice.  What are you going to do about it?  What small steps can you do today, this week, etc. that will help you attain the vision you have for the future?  Do something, step out your comfort zone, even if it is a baby step, take a step.  The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Benjamin Franklin said, “If you aim at nothing you will hit it every time.”  So what are you aiming at?

Life: The Eternal Flame That Burns Brightly

Life: The Eternal Flame That Burns Brightly

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Maya Angelou 

We all have a limited time on this earth.  We should always be aware of the impact that we are making.  The last couple of weeks I have been caught up doing and not living.  I realize I will never get that time back.  So I choose now to live like each moment matters from this day forward.

How about you?  Who have you impacted this week with love?  I wish I could say I have even replenished my own resources but I haven’t.  I will be taking the rest of today to do something meaningful.  I choose to do something empowering.

I am adding this poem I just read.  I hope it inspires you to live today like you will die tomorrow.  I also hope that as we make our choices we remember to leave a part of love behind, make people feel loved and perform an act of random kindness today.

What Will Matter
By Michael Josephson

Special Note: If you have a few minutes, consider flowing through this meaningful poem in a beautiful, inspiring flash presentation available at this link.

Some day it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no more minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.
So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.

It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter?

How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built,
Not what you got, but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character,
Not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories, but the memories of those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.
It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

Note: Visit the author’s website at http://www.josephsoninstitute.org

Radical Self Love

Radical Self Love

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”

 Louise L. Hay

In her book, Lovin’ The Skin You’re In, The Juicy Woman’s Guide to Making Peace with Food and Friends with Your Body,  Andrea Amador says, “The burden falls upon you to redirect others to understand and know how you want to be treated. The most important relationship you can ever have is with yourself. To love yourself more, you have to be love. Love is a verb. If you want others to love and respect you, you must first love and respect yourself. That comes from changing the way you talk to yourself.” (www.thejuicywoman.com)

I was thinking about this. We teach people how to treat us in various ways. I have heard that how we allow others to treat us teaches them what is OK and not.  Here she also talks about how we treat ourselves teaches others how to treat us. I have neglected many aspects of my personal self care. I would never treat anyone the way I treat myself. I am determined to change that. How about you? Can anyone relate to the need for extreme self-care? How have you been treating you lately?

It is time for some extreme self care! How do you talk to yourself? Do you beat yourself up and put yourself down?  Think about the things you say to yourself.  Would you talk to anyone else that way?  You need to build yourself up not tear yourself down.  Be gentle, patient and compassionate with yourself.  When is the last time you told yourself, “I love you.”  Try looking in the mirror and tell yourself that.  Watch your self talk.  When you catch yourself being hard on you, try to reframe it.  Find something you love about yourself.  You are the only you.  Thank God for you, not in a sarcastic thank god there is only one of me way, but Thank God I am unique and special. 

How much time you allocate to yourself says volumes of how much you love yourself.  I spoke recently in a post about priorities, entitled, Choose Priorities That Will Last.  Do you prioritize “you” in your schedule?  You need to take care of you to have something to share with others.  So if you are saying I need to put my kids first or my husband first, remember that if you are so overextended taking care of your family that you are empty, you will not be able to take care of your family.  You have to set “you” as a priority.  Your actions show your priorities.  Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be an option.

What about pampering yourself, when is the last time you took care of you?  Yes you guys too.  Take time to do the things that make you feel nourished physically, mentally, spiritually and creatively.  Yes creatively, do something creative to fill that part of your spirit, it will be life changing.  Take time to feel good about yourself.  If you work from home don’t spend the day in your pajamas.  Ok, love being in your jammies, make it something you do to pamper yourself on a special occasion, not a routine. I have been realizing that I need to do things more for myself, so, as I write this I am writing it to me too.  Do what it takes to make yourself feel beautiful or handsome just for you, even if no one but the UPS guy ever sees you.  You are worth it.  How you take care of yourself when no one is watching shows how you really feel about yourself! Don’t you believe you deserve to look good for you? Wear your favorite perfume, put on make up, glitter up with some hot bling, and what ever you guys do, just for you. Dress as if you were expecting important company, you are, you.

As Benjamin Franklin says, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”  Schedule in your own time for you and put it in writing, in ink.  Tell others you need some “me” time.  If you make up your mind to make it happen and put it out there, a way will be provided.  First, you must make a decision to make you a priority.  I know many of you are so busy you don’t see how you can find time to do something you want for you, but if you don’t even decide to try, I guarantee it won’t happen.

Let me know how it goes, I would love to hear your comments.  I would love to have a dialogue not a monologue with you.  Share how you pulled it off.  What have you done for you lately? 

“In my life there is an infinite supply of love, it is inexhaustible, I can never use it all in this lifetime so I don’t have to be sparing with it!”

Louse L. Hay

Choose Priorities That Will Last

Choose Priorities That Will Last

“Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work.” H.L. Hunt

Life is short.  We have to make choices how we are going to use the precious moments we have been given each day.  We have to decide what our legacy will be, what will you be remembered for?  At the end of the day, how happy are you with how you choose to spend those 86,000 seconds you were gifted today.

Mahatma Gandhi said, “Action expresses priorities.”  When asked, people will tell you their priorities are God, family, etc. however; the truth lies in their actions.  When you plan your day what is the first thing you schedule in?  Do you actually take time to schedule in yourself, your family and your friends as a habit?  What about time for spiritual renewal, personal growth, exercise, relaxation, service and oh yeah fun?

I was talking with an old friend today; we had begun to write a book several years ago and never finished it.  We discussed setting up 1 hour a week to finish it.  She said let’s schedule a time and put it down as a weekly time or it will never happen.  I loved that because we always plan to plan in life. Life rewards action, take the time to put it in pen on your calendar.

I think of all the family members and friends I have promised to connect with.  How many times have I said, “We need to get together.”?  You need to seize the day, “carpe diem”, now is all you have.  In the end it won’t matter how many billable hours you logged in or if you made it to one more networking meeting, it will matter if your children know they are loved or your friends have memories to share when the remember you.

Stephen R. Covey author of The Seven Habits of Successful People says, “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”   It is important to have balance and to do all the things that matter not just being busy, being busy.  If you don’t plan it into your life it won’t happen.

I opened with a quote that said to decide what you want and what you are willing to exchange for it, the truth is if you don’t make a plan to incorporate into your life the things you want you will be choosing to exchange it for something else.  What are you willing to exchange your child’s laughter for?

I want to end with this great little story that I love and have read many times. But first I want to say again, if you don’t plan it into your schedule it will not happen.  The winds of time and the waves of life will sweep over you and before you know it another 86,000 seconds have passed, how will you have chosen to spend them?

 The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee

When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. “Now,” said the professor as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else—the small stuff. “If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. “Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

-Author Unknown