Perfect Love Drives Out Fear

Perfect Love Drives Out Fear

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“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” ~ Mother Teresa

I have been focusing on becoming love; it is my theme for the month and the journey of a lifetime.  Nowhere is divine love more present within us than when we practice compassion and true forgiveness toward those who have hurt us.  It is then when we truly learn what unconditional love is.

It is easy to love those who love us.  It is easy to love those who are acting lovable.  But what about loving someone when they are pushing your buttons, how easy does that come?  What about loving someone when they are cruel to you?  What about loving someone who has deeply hurt you in your past?  Is it still so easy?

I had a long talk with a friend I adore.  We were talking about past hurts and letting go of past hurt.  When we let go of the pain and recognize that it is not personal how others treat us, it is just them dealing with their own unresolved pain, we can be free.  If we choose to live from love we can have compassion and understand that the other person was doing the best they could with what they had in the moment, we can release it and move on.  I am not saying condone it, it is not OK, but you can let it go.

When we can choose to let go, we take back the power that only love can give, the true freedom.  As long as we relive the hurt, tell the story to ourselves and others over and over and hold onto the pain, we give them permanent residence in our head and the power to hurt us over and over again.  Have compassion on yourself and decide you have suffered enough, love yourself enough to stop the dance and get off the merry-go-round of pain and let it go.

We constantly have to choose to live from love or from fear.  When we live with compassion and forgiveness we live from love.  When we live from resentment and bitterness we live from fear.  Perfect love drives out fear, they cannot exist simultaneously.  So ask yourself will you be a prisoner of fear or live in the freedom and power of love?

My Challenge: When someone is saying or doing something and you are feeling hurt stop and choose to have compassion on them. Recognize it is not personal, if possible try to recognize their maybe so much more going on underneath within them that you have no idea about, don’t take it personally, it is there junk they are dealing with.  Then let it go, love yourself enough to take care of yourself and let it go.

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Each Moment is A Gift: Unwrap the Present

Each Moment is A Gift: Unwrap the Present

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“Sometimes, in order to be happy in the present moment, you have to be willing to give up hope for a better past.” ~ Robert Holden, PhD.

We all have a history and a story.  We can’t change the past but we can change how we allow it to affect our present.   We can choose how we tell our story.  Many people have victim stories that they tell but they don’t learn from the past or take responsibility for their role in creating the experience.

Even when we were hurt by the consequences of other’s choices we can still have power over how we choose to experience it today.   Maybe when we were going through it we did not have the resources to deal with it, perhaps we were a child, but now we are not in the situation anymore.  It is the past, it is not happening now so it is not reality it is history.  We don’t have to continue to give our power away to it.

When we waste so much time and energy wishing things were different, wishing that it never happened, that is more life you and power we are giving to the experience, the person or the situation that hurt us.  Horrible things happen but not releasing the past, not forgiving and not letting go of illusion that things could have been different will only steal your present.

“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future.  If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” ~ Lao Tzu

Whatever your experience is I know how hard it is to move on but I challenge you to stop looking back and learn to enjoy the moments around you, each moment is a gift that is why they call it the present.  I have had to overcome many hurts but I would not change a thing because I love who I am and who I am becoming so much, every experience has brought me to this place, right now.  I challenge you to live now to create the future you want and enjoy the ride along the way.  If you need help navigating the journey contact me, I can help.  I want to help you live a fully empowered joyful life!

Forgiveness Is The Gift We Give Ourselves!

Forgiveness Is The Gift We Give Ourselves!

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponde

I was thinking today about forgiveness.  I believe that it is important to forgive others to let go of the bitterness that contaminates your soul.  It is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.  That tight, heavy feeling in your chest or your stomach when you think about the offense is an example of how lack of forgiveness can make you physically sick.   Prolonged unforgiveness can lead to serious illness.

To me, even more, significant is the toll it takes on your spirit.  It is like a massive weight that we carry, and it blocks us from receiving the love that is out there, waiting.  I feel like letting go of the pain and anger enables you to be free and to feel peace in your spirit.  It opens you up to receive love and to love others.

Recently, I have been studying the mind-body connection.  From a purely scientific physics point of view, we essentially created from photons.  When we break down our bodies into the smallest particles, we are pure energy.

Energy vibrates at different frequencies and when we are in a state of unforgiveness we emit a negative vibration.  Have you ever been around someone who is always angry or negative?  It is like they suck all the energy out of the room.  They can exhaust you.  Conversely, when someone radiates love and joy you want to be around them. Choose to vibrate love.

I think the critical thing that people who have a hard time forgiving should know is that they do not have to condone the action or even let the other person know they forgive them.  When you forgive someone, you are choosing it to let go of the pain.  You are deciding not to allow the other person to have power over you anymore.  As long as you hold onto the offense, it can anger, enrage and hurt you.  They are in control.

Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time.” ~ Sara Paddiso

It is easy to forgive someone who is sorry.  You don’t always have that option.  Sometimes the person is no longer around, sometimes they are someone you don’t know and can’t confront.  Sometimes they are not sorry.  When we choose to live a life of love we have to decide to forgive, for our own sake and the sake of the world around us that we influence.

Forgiveness unblocks the negative chains that bind your spirit and allows your heart to be free to love.  Don’t let someone else’s choice make you choose a path where you continue to be a victim.  Choose to be a survivor, choose to be a victor, and choose to live a life of love and joy again.  Choose to forgive!