Someday is Not a Day of the Week

Someday is Not a Day of the Week

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“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”

~ Napoleon Hill

2014 is the year of NO EXCUSES.  There will always be a reason to delay or put off your goals.  The best time to start is now.  I set the goal in 2013 to publish my first book that year.  On December 31st 2013 I did it because I decided I was going to keep the promise I made to myself.  I am now an official author on Kindle and Nook.  Yeah me! So this year I am not going to wait till the last minute to keep my promises to myself.

This is not a dress rehearsal and I am going to live my life and claim my dreams.

I have to admit I have been going through an incredibly challenging situation for too long now.  I have been using it as an excuse for not doing so many things.  But enough!! I am sick of hearing my own excuses.  I have a choice and regardless of the circumstances around me I get to decide how I am going to live my life and who I will be.

Excuses are useless but results are priceless!  I am excited to see what results I am going to see this year as I toss off the chains of complacency and self-pity.  It’s time to turn up the heat and start living.  Who will join me?

My Challenge: Ask yourself what excuses you are making and what price are you paying for them.  Then, Stop it!  Just Do It!  Go for it, you are worth it!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Letting Go: The Hardest Type of Empowering Love

Letting Go: The Hardest Type of Empowering Love

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“There are two things we should give to our children: Roots and Wings.” ~ Goethe

Nothing can stunt growth like enabling someone.  It is the hardest thing to do when we love someone to watch them struggle and to stand back and let them figure it out for themselves.  We always grow the most when we are outside our comfort zone.  When we love someone, sometimes the hardest thing we have to do is say “no”.

I am familiar with this.  For many years when I was deep in my mess and depressed my Mother kept rescuing me and bailing me out.  I kept saying “I will get it together tomorrow.”  I had the best of intentions.  But I knew I had a safety net and as long as I did, when things were hard I would ask for help rather than do the hard work of working it out for myself.

The greatest gift my Mother gave me was when she made me stand on my own two feet and stopped enabling me.  When she did she let me grow and I rose to the challenge.  I still know she is there if I need her but I want to stand on my own, I don’t need to be rescued.

If I am not living close to the edge then I am not stepping out my comfort zone enough.  What a great feeling when you discover you are stronger than you think.  It is the hardest part of loving someone, letting go, but sometimes it is the most loving thing we can do.

This is a great story that illustrates that perfectly.

The Story of the Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it,
expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness
and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Taken from Motivational Stories by Kevin @ http://www.motivationalwellbeing.com/motivational-stories.html

My Challenge:  The next time you’re tempted to do your kids homework or think it would be easier if you did it yourself in some situation with someone you love, stop and let them challenge themselves to grow outside their comfort zone.  It will be the most loving thing you can do.

Namaste,
Maria Elena Escobar

We Teach People How to Treat Us

We Teach People How to Treat Us

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“We’re always teaching people how we want to be treated. If you don’t like the way someone is treating you, don’t blame them change how you treat yourself.” ~Andrea Amador, The Juicy Woman

We set the tone for our relationships.  People will follow our lead in deciding how they will treat us; it is true we teach people how to treat us.  If we put ourselves down and make self-deprecating comments, it tells people we don’t value ourselves and it tells them it is OK for them to do the same.  If we put everyone else first and don’t take care of ourselves, the people in our lives will demand more and more because we have taught them we have no boundaries and can’t say no.

In her book, Lovin’ the Skin You’re In: The Juicy Woman’s Guide to Making Peace with Food and Friends with Your Body, Andrea Amador has a whole chapter about being your own best friend and she talks about learning to say no and setting boundaries in your life.  She has a long list of ways to say no, some are quite amusing.  The truth is we teach the world what are priorities are by the choices we make.  If we value our time and take time for extreme self-care, people will learn that we love ourselves and will treat us will the level of respect we treat ourselves.

We have a choice.  If we give our power away by allowing others to control our behavior, make choices for us or treat us less than we deserve, we are giving away our power.  If we live our lives as victims in unforgiveness we teach others that we are powerless and they can feel free to victimize us.  If we choose to stand in our power and make conscious choices to live life on our terms, to be in control and to not tolerate being controlled, that is what they will learn.

I saw this list on Facebook, it is a good place to start if you want to learn to change the way you treat yourself and to stop giving away your power.

10 ways to get power

My challenge:

Look at your life and your relationships.  Watch the dynamics and observe how your behavior has contributed to how you are treated in these relationships.  If you don’t like it, tell them the new rules and then be consistent in enforcing them.  People will test your resolve.  Stand your ground!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Let Go and Let God

Let Go and Let God

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I used to have this picture on my wall, it had this great poem.  I thought I would share the poem with you.

Broken Dreams

As children bring their broken toys

with tears for us to mend.

I brought my broken dreams to God

because he was my friend.

But then instead of leaving Him

in peace to work alone.

I hung around and tried to help

with ways that were my own.

At last I snatched them back and cried.

“How can You be so slow?”

“My child,” He said,

“What could I do?

You never did let go.”

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Life does not always go the way we dreamed and people can and will hurt us, but the great thing is we can still find joy and love no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in.  We always have the choice to trust in the power greater than ourselves.  We can choose to see the lesson and allow ourselves to take these opportunities and use them for the unfolding of our souls.  We can choose to let go and let God.

So many people think of surrender as a grudging act equated with pain and suffering.  I see it like a release, freedom and true peace.  It is like when you are learning to swim, if you flail and fight you will sink.  The moment you relax and let go and surrender to the buoyancy of the water you float.  It is so peaceful when you lie there and float.

Maybe it is time to let go of the struggle, let go of the anger, let go of the bitterness, let go of the resentment, let go of the grief, let go of the pain, let go of the past, let go of the expectations of things happening a certain way and let God.  What if, you just trusted that all is well and everything is working out for your greatest good?  What if, you forgave all your grievances and hurts and released the pain?  What if, you chose to just trust God and surrender?

There is peace in surrender, give up the struggle and let the peace in!

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” ~ Isaiah 26:3

My Challenge:

Choose some area in your life that is causing you stress and surrender the struggle, seek the lesson and let it go.  Choose peace!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Bring On the Sunshine it’s Raining Hard

Bring On the Sunshine it’s Raining Hard

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“Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.”

~ James Matthew Barrie

I try to make it a practice to be pleasant, smile and have joy in my step as much as possible when I leave the house.  I say, “Hi” to people and I have been known to make friends on a long line at the DMV.  Smiling rocks, I recommend it highly!!!  It changes the course of your day and can lift up the day for someone else as well.  You know you can even hear someone is smiling on the phone; it is in their voice, you can feel it. So smile when you are making those cold calls or talking to your child’s teacher, the energy will go through the phone lines and radiate out the other end.

“A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.”

~ Charles Gordy

I love to smile and I love to laugh, you can ask my nephews they think I am nuts.  No worries, I just smile, life is beautiful!  Today just a short little reminder that: no matter how hard the rain is coming down, the storm lifts when you smile and brings a rainbow and sunshine.  Be the sunshine in someone’s life today, it’s really pouring out there.  Go through your day and remember to smile, you will feel better and so will those around you.  And besides you will look fabulous, better than a face lift, wait it is a face lift, no worries, life is beautiful!

“Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.”

~ Anthony J. D’Angelo

My Challenge: Simply smile!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Time to Turn Up the Heat!

Time to Turn Up the Heat!

“Many of life’s failures are men who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” ~ Thomas Edison

A small change can make a tremendous difference.  In the book, 212° the Extra Degree: How to Achieve Results Beyond Your Wildest Expectations, S. Parker talks about the principle of small efforts producing big results.  He says, “At 211 degrees, water is hot. At 212 degrees, it boils.  And with boiling water, comes steam. And with steam, you can power a train” One degree makes all the difference. The book talks about that extra degree mentality, taking that extra step.  One little step can make such a big difference.

“Let me give a little extra effort,” “I am going the extra mile” and “I won’t stop till I win” these are things that successful people say.  If you are sailing through life by the “the seat of your pants” mentality, you will never see the success that you are capable of doing.  Too many people quit when they were so close, maybe one more try could have been all the difference.

 

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Too many people do the minimum requirements. Henry Ford said, “Quality means doing it right when no one is looking.” Whatever you do make sure you do it while you are striving for excellence.  Take pride in your work and live with the extra degree mindset, “I got a little more in me, I’m not done yet.” What if you set your alarm for 10 minutes earlier to exercise or meditate?  What if you went and found the information for your customer instead of saying it can’t be done?  Find a way to do it.  Give just a little bit more. Don’t settle for the minimum when you can aspire for the maximum!

 

My Challenge: 

For one week try giving 1% more effort each day.  Push yourself a little bit past when you feel done.  1% a day adds up to 30% a month, imagine what a difference 30% more in your life would make.

Check out this fantastic short inspirational video about what a difference a small extra effort can making a little extra effort.

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar