Someday is Not a Day of the Week

Someday is Not a Day of the Week

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“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”

~ Napoleon Hill

2014 is the year of NO EXCUSES.  There will always be a reason to delay or put off your goals.  The best time to start is now.  I set the goal in 2013 to publish my first book that year.  On December 31st 2013 I did it because I decided I was going to keep the promise I made to myself.  I am now an official author on Kindle and Nook.  Yeah me! So this year I am not going to wait till the last minute to keep my promises to myself.

This is not a dress rehearsal and I am going to live my life and claim my dreams.

I have to admit I have been going through an incredibly challenging situation for too long now.  I have been using it as an excuse for not doing so many things.  But enough!! I am sick of hearing my own excuses.  I have a choice and regardless of the circumstances around me I get to decide how I am going to live my life and who I will be.

Excuses are useless but results are priceless!  I am excited to see what results I am going to see this year as I toss off the chains of complacency and self-pity.  It’s time to turn up the heat and start living.  Who will join me?

My Challenge: Ask yourself what excuses you are making and what price are you paying for them.  Then, Stop it!  Just Do It!  Go for it, you are worth it!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Speak From a Place of Love and Watch the World Change

Speak From a Place of Love and Watch the World Change

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“Loves greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.” ~ Rumi

We are all responsible for the energy we bring into the world and especially our environment.  When we realize that love is energy and we can choose to make that energy sacred in every encounter, we begin to change the way we interact with others.  What if we choose to make communication a sacred act of love, seeking to understand and not to be right?

I recently read this fabulous account of a community that created a list of agreements that would enable them to make all communication sacred by taking responsibility in their role in each act of communication with others.  I loved the list because it made me think, “How great would it be if we all practiced these simple guidelines in our communication with others?”

So much anger and disputes could be avoided if we followed these agreements.  Relationships would thrive.  Countries would be at peace.  The energy of love could flow freely without the conflicts that come from poor or faulty communication.

  •  What if people took responsibility for their words?
  • What if people listened without preparing their retort?
  • What if the intention of every conversation was to understand each other?
  • What if world leaders practiced these agreements?

What a wonderful world this would be!

The Seven Self-responsible Communication Agreements

• My intention for my communication with others—particularly when we hold different perspectives—is to achieve mutually greater clarity, understanding and intimacy.

• I take full self-responsibility for the feeling and perspectives I am experiencing. Specifically, I understand that I am giving the circumstances in my life all the meaning they have for me. I am responsible for how I hold my feelings and perspectives, not anyone else.

• I understand that someone sharing his or her perspectives is not telling me about myself/the community; the person is telling me about him/herself—which diminishes defensiveness on my part and, in turn, helps to foster my ability to fully hear that person’s point of view.

• I understand that the way someone else thinks and acts makes perfect sense to him or her, and I would very likely think and act the same way if I were that person.

• I am watchful of my thoughts and words if I feel the impulse to change or fix someone else or the community. I understand that I can not know what is best for others. Therefore, I focus on telling them about me, not about them. (e.g. “The thoughts and feeling I’m giving myself about________are…..”)

• I understand the value of humility when I am expressing my perspectives, realizing that I am not God (i.e. all knowing: seeing the full picture from alpha to omega). Remaining mindful of my limited understanding of the ultimate workings of life can help to keep me from “shoulding” on others and/or making a case/attempting to win a debate.

• I invite my higher self’s guidance and wisdom in order to non-judgmentally listen to another’s perspective, as well as to truthfully and non-judgmentally voice my perspective—that is, what’s alive in me. I speak and listen from my heart.

Published on Mar 7, 2013

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My Challenge: The next time you have a significant conversation try to practice these simple agreements and note how different the experience is.

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

 

Inch by Inch a Cinch: Yard by Yard is Hard

Inch by Inch a Cinch: Yard by Yard is Hard

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“Anything is possible if you break it down into small enough steps”

~ Henry Ford

So many people fail to change because they are overwhelmed by what it will take to get from where they are to where they need to be.  Trying to imagine making a change for the rest of our lives can be daunting; that is why AA says, “One day at a time.”

Think about how the automobile is made, using an assembly line.  The workers don’t have to build the car all at once, rather it is broken down into smaller steps and viola a car is born.

Instead of eating the whole pie in one gulp, first we take a slice then we take bite size pieces.  If we use that same approach to accomplishing our goals imagine how much simpler it would be.  I always say, “Inch by inch a cinch, yard by yard is hard.”

The famous Japanese proverb says, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. says, “You don’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step.”  Do you see where I am going here?

When I was taking back my life after my depression I had to take baby steps.  I set tiny goals, such as: “today I will make one call toward going back to school.”  Start where you’re at.  Break down your goal into tiny achievable steps and do one thing on the list each day.  You will gain momentum and you will be moving forward, even if you are inching along you are still lapping the person on the coach.

If you have a room that is overwhelming that you and need to organize, set the timer for 10 minutes or even 5 and choose one corner, do something you will feel so much better when you see how far you’ve come in such a short time.  If you want to start an exercise program don’t say, “I am going to work out 2 hours a day” and then when you can’t realistically do that, give up.  Instead say, “I will do 15 minutes or walk 5 minutes” and add a little more each day until it becomes habit.

A year from now will pass either way, what would you like to say then: “I am getting closer to my goal.” Or “I wish I took that wise women’s advice and made some changes in…”

My Challenge: Choose something you really want to accomplish.  Break it down into the smallest steps possible, searching on the web for info is an acceptable step.  Make a checklist with little box next to it so you can check off each thing as you do it.  Put it where you can see it.  Put one thing in your planner for the day then check it off the list.  Magic will happen!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Do or Do Not… There is No Try. ~ Yoda

Do or Do Not… There is No Try. ~ Yoda

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“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

It is so easy to be stuck in the paralysis of analysis.  We can spend so much time plotting, planning and preparing but good intentions are not enough to get you the life you want, you must DO! 

I can relate to this subject. When I was in recovery from PTSD and being treated for clinical depression I tried to pull out of the pit I was in from time to time; I would read self-help books.  But I never did what they said and I stayed stuck.  There are thousands of diet plans and the truth is most of them will work if you work them.  When I finally started to love myself and choose to do the things needed to get healthy the weight started coming off.  The difference between success and failure is action.  Getting that life rewards action changed my life!  Now I do what I say I am going to do and I am so different than I was.  I no longer am just a dreamer, I have goals and I go for them whatever it takes, and it takes action!

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”

~ Theodore Roosevelt

My challenge: Choose one thing you have been talking about doing or changing and break it down into steps, each day do one thing on the list, no excuses!

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

We Teach What We Need To Learn

We Teach What We Need To Learn

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“A diamond is a chunk of coal that is made good under pressure.”

~ Henry Kissinger

I love the metaphor of how diamonds are formed by being under pressure.  Another precious transformation metaphor is in the Bible where it says God refines us like silver and gold.  The refining process is very interesting, they put the metal under intense heat ‘till all the impurities rise to the surface, it is called dross, and they sift it off.  When you are undergoing the growing pains of life you feel the intense heat and it seems like all this junk you thought you changed comes to the surface, it is in your face.  It can feel like that is all you are ‘till it gets sifted off.  Suddenly you are shiny and new.

Right now I feel like I am in the cocoon of transformation but like the coal I feel the pressure of the winds of change all around me, but I am holding on because I know what beauty is on the other side.  I always say we teach what we need to learn.  God is always reminding us of the same lessons throughout the journey and sometimes it takes taking your own advice.

I have seen areas that need growth and I am grateful for the opportunity but not always ready for the process of change.  Today I found myself extremely anxious about something I need to let go of in order to be more empowered, an area where I was still living from fear not love.  Then I remembered that I am trying to grow and allow my soul to unfold into who it was meant to be in this world.

I remembered the things I have been posting about being in the moment and allowing the chaos around me, when I am fully in the now I can be the calm in the storm.  I imagined in my head something like the Wizard of Oz, the tornado is swirling furniture, cows and all kinds of things around me and I am in the middle calm.  They say the calmest place in a hurricane is in the eye of the storm.  I am choosing to be that calm.

So as I go through my growing pains and feel the pressure of being turned from a lump of coal into a brilliant diamond I can remember that though I may have flaws and are still a work in progress, the pressure is worth the price.

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar

Stop Dragging On the Ground When You Were Born to Fly

Stop Dragging On the Ground When You Were Born to Fly

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“It’s never too late to be who you might have been.”

~ George Elliot

For many years I said I wanted to change and each year I would make the same New Year’s resolutions, long before January came to an end I had lost sight of my goals.  Year after year I sat deeply entrenched in being a victim, focusing on what I did not to have and watching time ebb away, while my dreams went unfulfilled.  I have been through so many challenges, many of which you can read about in the “a bit about me” section but I will not go into it here, suffice to say for a long time I allowed those challenges to take their toll and beat me down.  How about you, how are your New Year’s resolutions going?

Well enough of gloom and doom, I am a new person now and getting more fabulous every day.  Today I realized that I am hovering over the 50 pound weight loss mark, and so much has changed.  I am no longer a victim, I am a victor, I choose to live my life from a place of personal power and I keep the promises I make to myself.  Change is no longer a four letter word it is a lifestyle.

When I started this site I used my love of butterflies because of the magical transformation they make.  Think about it they go from slowly dragging on the ground to flying on beautiful wings.  Is there any other better metaphor for what can happen when we are ready to change and become the beautiful butterflies that lie dormant within the cocoon of possibilities?

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In order to become the butterfly within we have to let go of being the caterpillar.  At least we know what to expect from being a caterpillar.  The familiar does get comfortable.  Even if it is painful and you are miserable, it is far less scary than change.  We change when the pain of staying the same is more than the pain of changing.  Are you ready to find your wings?  Are you ready to step out your comfort zone?

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

~ Maria Robinson

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Once you have gotten tired of looking up at the long caterpillar climb and are ready to see the flowers from a new vantage point as you fly above them, then anything is possible.  As George Elliot says above it is never too late to be who you might have been.  I changed when I got sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I choose to become a life coach because I believe we all have greatness within us and I wanted to help people find their power to live their greatness every day.

I am putting together an Empowered Women’s Circle for women who are ready to change.  It is an empowerment/support group but not a place to come and complain.  It is a place to take action, to conquer those mountains you could not climb alone.  Please contact me if you are ready to put on your wings and be the person you might have been.  You can message me on FB at https://www.facebook.com/Maria.Escobar913 or email me at maria@togetherweempoweryou.com If you would prefer to work one on one I am available for a free strategy session, contact me at the same places.

Namaste,

Maria Elena Escobar