This is ME and What You See is Beautiful!

This is ME and What You See is Beautiful!

This amazing video of the Oscar-nominated song is from Atlantic Records Soundtrack of the movie The Greatest Showman.

Recently I have gotten to the place where I don’t like the person I see in the mirror.  There was a time I sincerely looked at ME and loved ME mind, body, and spirit.

But the world has taught us that being overweight is ugly.  We are supposed to feel shame for letting ourselves get to where we are.  But who is perfect, and if we wait till we are perfect to be lovable then no one would be worthy.

I love this video because it reminds me of something I talked about with a dear friend at dinner.  I am more than my body.  I am a piece of The Divine!  When I was born into this body, I incarnated as a perfect being of Divine Love.  I am still that person.  That is the real ME; life is about remembering who you are.

I want to be a motivational speaker and best selling author.  But I’ve played small because of the shame and embarrasement of where I am physically.  I had lost so much weight and was getting healthy and then gained it all back.  I’ve been ashamed to be where I’m at and did not want to “be seen.”  So I’ve been in hiding.  Not anymore!  This is ME and what you see is BEAUTIFUL!!!

One of my favorite speakers and authors and general shero is Lisa Nichols.  She was in the movie, The Secret and she was a beautiful full figured curvy woman.  She has lost a lot of weight, and she looks fabulous, you can tell she spends a lot of time loving herself and exercising, she is exceptionally cut.  But she was always beautiful.  She said in a YouTube video from Awesome-Fest that if she waited till she was thin to get out there speaking “Lisa Nichols would be the secret.”  It was like something inside me opened up when I heard that.

So no more hiding.  This is ME.

There will always be haters, people who need to shame others and criticize.  People who judge and hurl their cruel words at you, like in the video.  They are just words.  I am a warrior, and if the lashes of others verbal assaults hit me I will proudly wear them as my battle scars and say, “This is ME and what you see is beautiful!”

These are some exercises I pieced together from my teachers/mentors/sheros of self-love, these women have paved the way for the world see “self-love” not as bad thing to criticize and judge but rather as a goal to strive to achieve.

So this post is dedicated to Louise Hay and her mirror work that changed so many lives including mine.  She was a warrior and will be missed; her loss will be felt.

I also thank Christine Arylo the self-love catalyst, another mighty warrior.  I have all her books, and she taught me that falling Madly in Love with Me, one of her fabulous books, is my life’s work, so I can help others do the same.

Thank you, Teal Swan, another warrior for love who showed me that no matter where you are starting even if you have a 0 baseline for self-love it is still possible to overcome it.  Her Youtube videos and books on her journey are life-altering.

Thank you, Lisa Nichols who challenges me to action, she always leaves you wanting to say, “Yes Yes” this warriors personal battle cry.

Of course, I added my spin to the excercise too.

Now if you’ve followed my blog you know I always give a call to action, some homework, a challenge.  So here it is.

My Challenge:

Yes, it’s mirror work time.  Yeah!

Try these exercises for the first 5-10 minutes of your morning for 30 days. You will have a shift. Now because I know that mirror work, especially if you have self-love issues will make you feel uncomfortable and there will be resistance, I challenge you to, “Do it anyway!” You will see a shift if you persist.

This section is the part that I added to help with the resistance.

Get up in the morning and look into your eyes.  Remember that you are not your body or your circumstances.  You are the Divine being who was incarnated into this temporary form.  Even this form has changed over time, you have lived many incarnations in this lifecycle.  You were an infant, a toddler, a child, a teenager, and an adult but, even though your form has changed over time the essence of who you are has always been the pure Divine Love being that entered this form as a baby. (I heard this from Wayne Dyer in an interview with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday)

You are not your body; you are not your mistakes, you are not your failures, you are not what people say about you, you are a piece of the divine.  They say the eyes are the seat of the soul where you can look deeply into and see you, the real you.  Have an intimate moment with yourself.  Intimacy is basically “Into-me-see, we all seek intimacy but do we ever have intimacy with ourselves.

Life is about remembering who we are. A drop of water in the ocean of The Divine.  We are all energy, and a piece of The Divine, there is nowhere that The Divine is not.  That love energy is in every cell of your body and your DNA, there is nowhere where it stops, and you begin.

So as you gaze deep into your eyes and do this exercise, really look, without judgment, without labels and remember who is living inside there.  Don’t give into the resistance; it will get easier.  Stick to it and keep the promise you made to yourself.  I’m doing it right along-side of you.

Please comment what you’ve been learning or email me at ME@EmpowerYou.Love and tell me all about it.

As you look into your eyes, do the following things.

This affirmation comes from Louise Hay. Put your hand over your heart and say “I love you exactly the way you are.”  Say it three to seven times.  There is something magical about repeating it.

Then do Lisa Nichols exercise.  You can find her talk about it on YouTube. It was also at Awesome-Fest, I will make it to one.  Say to yourself, Maria Elena (Your name here) I’m proud of you for… say seven things, Maria Elena (Your name here) I forgive you for… say seven things, Maria Elena (Your name here) I commit to you… say seven things.  You can put your hand over your heart; it helps to connect with your higher self, the true you.  You may find yourself forgiving yourself for the same things over and over, but eventually, you will see a shift, and that thing won’t come up for you.  My addition is if you can journal what you said and felt after.

I’m attaching the self-love promises from Christine Arylo which I learned from her Self-Love program; I highly recommend signing up or reading her books, wow.  I have these images on every mirror in my house and over my desk. Put them on your mirror, and say them at least three times in the morning or night with your hand over your heart while looking into your eyes.

This is something you can do in addition to the mirror work if you want to take it to the next level.

Ask yourself these questions.

Teal Swan in her book, Shadow Before Dawn said she didn’t know what self-love was she was so broken she could not even comprehend it. So she lived for one year by one question; she used it to make every decision, she asked herself, “What would someone who loves themselves do?”

Again I added these questions because sometimes we know how to help others but don’t know how to help ourselves: What would I tell my best friend?  What do I need right now?

Maria Elena

How to live an EXTRAordinary life

How to live an EXTRAordinary life

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

~Author Unknown

I’m starting “Day One” of the Ultimate Blog Challenge.  Thirty-one posts in Thirty days, bring it!  I think that it’s important to do things that take us outside of our comfort zones.  I have many strengths consistency is not one of them.  I am determined to make this a strength. We all need to challenge ourselves to step up our game, what challenge are you willing to take on?

Change happens when you make extraordinary choices and take extraordinary actions. I want to be extraordinary.  All it takes is adding little “extra” to the ordinary.  What small step can you take to make your life the one you have dreamed of having?  What choice can you make that would put you closer to the person you want to be?

It is not the significant huge changes that radically transform our lives.  It is the little things that matter like getting up 5 minutes earlier to meditate, making the call, taking time to show appreciation, and doing something you think you cannot do.  I know that if I want to create the life I want I must require more of myself.

No one has ever accomplished anything significant by playing small, by staying close to the shore, or by settling for the minimum requirements.

That is why you need to challenge yourself to do things whether you feel like it or not.  The feeling is not just around the corner, trust me I looked. The good news is it does not have to be colossal action; it merely requires a little extra.

I hope you follow the journey with me, on this Thirty-day quest.  Subscribe to my blog and get my posts sent directly to you.

If you have a blog, it’s not too late to join the challenge. Go to the URL on the banner below.

I like to end my posts with a call to action, a challenge.  Giving a challenge seems especially appropriate today as I commence on this challenge.

My Challenge:

What is one action you can take that is just a little bit “extra” that would put you closer to your goals?  What is a choice you can make now that would enable you to take that action?  Do it!  All it takes is a little ”extra” to take your life from the ordinary to the extraordinary.

Stop and Marvel at the Wonder that is YOU!

Stop and Marvel at the Wonder that is YOU!

“When you know yourself, you are empowered, when you accept yourself, you are invincible.” ~ Tina Lifford

I admit I love inspirational posts on FB, Twitter and Pinterest.  There are days I get carried away sharing stuff that is motivational or inspiring.  This is one of those posts.  I like the simplicity of the list of how to build your confidence.

Self-confidence is important; we need to have confidence to create an empowered life.  Self-esteem is actually different than self-confidence.  It is recognizing you have value and that you have deep worth, to hold yourself in high honor.  Confidence means you believe you can do things.  Esteem means you are worth loving even if you do nothing.  It is recognizing who you really are, a masterpiece.

We all came into these bodies as pure divine love, somehow the muck of our experiences in this body and what others have told us, makes us forget that.  We are amazing works of art, masterpieces.

As I am writing this I was thinking of the word masterpiece.  We were pieced together by the Master creator.  Every thread of character carefully chosen, every fiber of temperament mindfully selected.  As each feature of our body was deliberately chiseled by the Master’s hand, we were created perfectly.

Who you are is worthy of being valued and esteemed (held in high honor).  So it is great to have self-confidence but even more amazing is truly having self-esteem.  When you accept yourself and celebrate yourself then you are invincible.

My Challenge:  Write down three things about yourself that are part of who you are and not what you do that are amazing works of the master, and thank him for creating you so wonderfully.  Keep writing the list is endless.

Maria Elena Escobar

I Promise Me to Be the Best Me Today

I Promise Me to Be the Best Me Today

I Promise to Best Me Today

The other day I read the book, The Four Agreements written by, Don Miguel Ruiz.  They are four simple principles that you commit yourself to live by, freeing you from the tyranny of ego.  He doesn’t actually use the word ego but essentially anything that causes us to make choices from fear and not love, resides in the ego. As Dr. Wayne Dyer always says, ego is an acronym for Edging God Out.  We are created to be connected to God and to live a life of love.  If you follow these agreements you will live from love and not fear.

One of the four agreements that resonated with me is be impeccable with your word.  The agreements are a contract you make with yourself.  I am committed to being in integrity, saying what I mean, honoring my commitments and choosing my words carefully.  Words are powerful, they create our experience.

This particular agreement has historically been challenging for me, especially when it comes to keeping my word to myself.  My past, including yesterday, is replete with examples of me making promises to myself or making commitments and flaking. But I am not that person, I can make different choices today.  It may be a challenge to change but challenges are what make life interesting so I am going to do what I say I am going to do, even if it hurts.

Words have power so I am going to remember to think before I speak to make sure what I am saying is beneficial and coming from a place of love.  I have this picture on my wall it has the acronym THINK, it says:

Before you Speak THINK:

T-is it True?

H– is it Helpful?

I– is it Inspiring?

N– is it Necessary?

K– is it Kind?

I don’t have to act the way I used to, even if I messed up yesterday, today is a new chance to try again!  I don’t have to be a prisoner of the past, I can be a pioneer of the future and forge new ground.

So I am sharing this with you my fellow travelers.  I am committed to making this my strength.  Below is a summary of the four agreements, which one resonates with you?  What are you willing to commit to do?

(Note: I found this on Facebook so whoever wrote it thank you.)



In case hard to read it says:


a. Speak with integrity.

b. Say only what you mean.

c. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.

d. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.


a. Nothing others do is because of you.

b. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.

c. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.


a. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.

b. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.

c. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


a. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy opposed to when you are sick.

b. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Share what you are going to commit to; I would love to hear it.


Maria Elena

Honoring a Great Man Today: Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Honoring a Great Man Today: Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.


“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?’”

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

My dream is to create a world of love and tolerance, where people make responsible choices from a place of personal power.  No one embodied, lived and died for that dream greater than the hero we honor today, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. the man with a powerful dream.

Nothing I can say will do justice to his indelible spirit and passionate purpose.  Today on Facebook and Twitter I found myself sharing countless quotes by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. what profound wisdom and statements he spoke, the eloquence of which I can only aspire.

As you go through your busy day stop and remember what a different world this would be if it were not for men such as Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  And ask yourself what are you doing for others?


“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

There is still so much work to be done.  I am humbled and challenged by the upward call and ask all of you to join me in seeing Dr. King’s dream fully realized in our generation.  Be the difference.  Do something, just move.

My tribute would not be complete without including the famous speech that still stirs the hearts, ignites the passions and motivates the masses to this day, “I Have a Dream Speech” this video may be lengthy but worth the view.


Maria Elena Escobar